Lady Old, Lady New
Who would have guessed I'd learn something new about myself while playing games on Facebook? Certainly not I!
I am rather addicted to Kingdoms of Camelot right now...although, it's not so much the game as the sarcastic bantering that takes place in the rather small alliance I belong to. Yesterday I popped on to build a little more of my city and discovered that three new people had joined my alliance and one "old" member had left...apparently due to a misunderstanding between her and one of the new members. My friend (the "old" member) had given an ultimatum: "Either she goes or I go". I guess maybe people thought she was bluffing or something, and nobody really likes to respond to ultimatums anyway. So when nobody did away with Lady New, Lady Old left like she had threatened to do.
I was sad to see her go.
Later that evening Lord Peacemaker sent me a private message asking me for my vote: Lady Old or Lady New? I was hesitant to give an answer because I thought it was just idle talk, and I didn't know the whole story and couldn't say who was right or wrong or anything. With the knowledge I had, I said my vote was for Lady Old because I knew her. I don't know Lady New from a hole in the ground, though the little I had seen of her in the chat room seemed to suggest she would fit very nicely in our alliance. But I also mentioned my lack of knowledge of what had transpired between the two ladies. He later informed me that Lord Chancellor had handed the issue over to him, which was why he was taking a vote. He wanted to know what the rest of us voted. Apparently everyone (or almost everyone...I don't really know) voted Lady Old, because today Lord Chancellor talked to Lady New and explained things to her (probably still trying to work things out so both ladies could stay!), and she left. Lady Old is back!
Through this whole thing, but particularly through the dialogue I had with Lord Peacemaker about the vote, I learned that I tend to value "right" and "wrong" over relationship. I wasn't sure who to vote for at first because I didn't know which of the ladies was more in the "right" and which was more in the "wrong". But I think it shouldn't matter so much. Right or wrong, you stick by your friends. Ultimately that's where I cast my vote, but I'm a little disappointed that I couldn't see it that way before.
Anyway, I THINK I believe that relationship comes first and THEN you can worry about right and wrong. But I will admit that I haven't sat down and thought this out completely to it's logical conclusion. It just occurred to me that placing right and wrong before relationship could lead to becoming more like the villains that scare me most--the logical, un-emotional, un-relational ones. For example, the Borg from Star Trek or the people on drugs in Equilibrium. And as with almost everything else in my life right now, I'm at the point where I really don't know what I believe so pretty much everything is open for consideration.
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I think Jesus was all about Relationship, and I think that's why Love Covers a Multitude of Sin. Love Rules.
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